It is quite funny how many articles tell you what to do on your first date but never tell you what not to do on your first date.

Going on your first date especially with someone you like can be very exciting. But we tend to make a lot of mistakes on the first date, Have you ever asked yourself why someone who claimed to have a nice time with you bluntly refuses to go out with you again. and this keeps you wondering what you might have done wrong, This is where I come in.

What is a date

This is an appointment or engagement especially a social/romantic with a member of the opposite sex.
I have been on several dates before and I have seen and understood why people never go on the second date after the first one. Before i do I want you to understand that there are two main reasons why someone refuses to go on a second date with you after the first one; it is not meant to be
or you did something wrong
you will have to make a good first impression before you will know whether it is meant be or not.
The first DATE determines whether you will have a relationship with the person or not. Below are list of things you should not do on a first date and why

What Not To Do On The First Date

  • Don’t be staring at another person concentrate on your date, it is very rude to be staring at another hotter guy/girl when you are on a date with someone this will make you look like a player.
  • Don’t be too forward, control your emotions;don’t start telling your date that you are in love with him/her on the first date. it is really annoying and this can fully disqualify you, so please don’t be too forward
  • Don’t be self-centered; you can’t just keep talking about yourself, get to know your date. yo don’t want to look self-centered do you? well I guess not.
  •             Stop pressing your phone it is rude;how can you be on a date with someone and yet you are pressing your phone, making calls, and chatting. Believe me this disqualifies you faster than you can say “what” you are on a date not on a phone pressing competition{you can do this if you want to get rid of your date}
  •          Don’t forget that there is something called table manners; that moment when you start talking with food in your mouth,picking your nose,eating like you have never seen food before, putting your hand across the table to collect your dates food and drink just no that you have disqualified yourself.
  •                Dont be arrogant; we know you ve got the best the cars, career, house. so please don’t start laying that out on the first date
  •             Don’t tell your date the story of your life or all the problems you are having, he/she is not your therapist. please spare your date the ugly details. telling your date all this things can seriously ruin your chances.
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If you can follow the above Guidelines, It will really help you to make a good first impression and have a wonderful date.

BUT WHAT IF AFTER ALL THIS AND THE PERSON STILL REFUSES TO GO OUT WITH YOU AGAIN; THEN JUST KNOW THAT IT IS NOT MEANT TO BE AND BELIEVE ME IT MIGHT BE FOR THE BEST.

AND ALWAYS BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE SPECIAL

Comment below I want to know what you think

2 COMMENTS

  1. Thanks so much for your story. just want to say something I just want through what you explain since we date for the first time we have never date again, but we are still loving. sometime he leave me for months and come back. please show me my way forward.

    • massa sambola thanks for your question.
      The truth is that i really didn’t get your story but i will try my best to answer you.
      If a guy leaves you for no just cause you need to ask questions find out really happened.
      Then if he leaves you for weeks without explanation if he comes back and refuses to explain or he simply does that all the time send him packing. Break up with him. No man should treat you that way .
      You deserve better.

      If you can state your uestions clearly it would really help me to understand you

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