Anger is an emotional response related to psychological interpretation of having been offended, wronged,or denial. It is also an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong. Being angry is not wrong but action you take when you are angry is what is wrong and sin.
And that’s why you need to put your anger in control before it controls you. Everyone gets angry, so no need to feel guilty when you lose your temper.It’s okay to be angry or feel hurt when someone offends you it’s your right to feel that way. But the problem is what you do when you feel this way. Some people break things, hurt themselves and others when angry.
Is anger inherited?
It is really dangerous because of the physical,spiritual, and psychological harm it inflicts on you and others.The root cause of all the bad things happening in today’s world is as a result of anger. War doesn’t just start it is built slowly by anger and war is something no one wants to experience.
Some men feel they need to shout and lose their temper all the time to show their masculinity.Some would insist that a man who doesn’t have anger problem isn’t a man. This seems to be man’s way of expressing his frustration, it is a mistake to think it a beneficial emotion. Man’s tendency towards anger has probably started more wars,created more conflict and ruined more homes than any other universal trait. Have you seen two men fighting in the middle of a busy road because of anger leading to road rage, the amazing thing is that they forget how easy it is to be knocked down and killed by a car; so you see anger blocks your sense of reasoning which is very dangerous. Or someone driving at a high speed out of anger sooner than later ends up in eternity.
Is it really worth it?
Nowadays child abuse is on the increase over 10,000 children die yearly due to such mistreatment, what can cause any adult to so abuse a helpless child? ANGER! It happens to everyone the only difference is the ability to control this. I have seen this destroy ministers of God as well as other great men and women. Looking closer you will realize why pastors children are wayward, this is caused by abusive upbringing filled with anger and hostility. Many women cheat on their husbands because of his anger and the only communication between them is outburst of anger.
A relationship without communication is dead.
And this is why divorce is on the increase. When you lose your temper easily you equally lose friends and loved ones because they are too afraid to speak to you. Anger,hostility or wrath is as old as man, if you recall the first family, where Cain killed his brother Abel out of Anger. Anger is nearly universal emotional problem with devastating consequences particularly in the home,the number of children subjected to emotional tension in the home due to anger of adults staggers the mind.
Millions of people have died because of this. This slowly grows into hatred and leads to murder, only protracted anger which turns into the white heat of anger would make a person take another person’s life. I heard a story of a young man who was constantly abused by his adopted parents. He couldn’t take it anymore so he killed them from his history he wasn’t violent but he was provoked.
When we get angry we forget that we are hurting others. You might smile and say “I don’t physically abuse my children or spouse when I get angry” how about your words? Verbal abuse which is caused by anger can kill someone emotionally.
How to overcome this
According to TIM LAHAYE “why you act the way you do” we are emotional creatures, designed so by God; but if we permit anger to dominate us it will squelch the riches emotion of love. Don’t put your frustration from work on your family; life is too short and our moments at home too brief to pay such a price for anger. Drop all your frustrations of the day outside your door before you enter your home. Sitting down and talking out your anger is better than fist fighting.
Some anger is not sin like when you see a child been mistreated you feel a surge of emotion and go to the aid of the child. Remember that Jesus was spat on and nailed to the cross. He showed absolutely no anger instead we hear the familiar words”father forgive them for they know not what they do” and he was fully human and felt all the pain. It is not inherited. It’s better to speak up when you are hurt.
Don’t bottle it up inside, because when it explodes it can be disastrous. It leads to bitterness,malice,revenge,criticism,resentment. All this are capable of destroying.
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