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13 Warning Signs That He Is Over-Possessive

Are men over-possessive?

over-possessive:To be possessive is having or manifest a desire to control or dominate another especially in order to limit that persons relationship with others.

Nowadays with books like beautiful disaster and the internationally acclaimed fifty shades of grey around,many women both young and old are dying to have boyfriends and husbands who are over-possessive.Please note that there is nothing wrong with been possessive,it shows you care about someone or something.

if you are in a relationship and your partner is never jealous or possessive, quietly breakup that relationship because that’s a sign that the love is dead.

But we ladies seem to overlook the dangers of men been over-possessive
Men are generally over-possessive,they have this alpha male thing about them,But remember that too much of everything is bad. it’s important that your man is been possessive of you
Before we look into the dangers let’s find out signs we must know.


  • when he wants to know your where about all the time.
  • when he follows your around like a personal body guard.>
  • when he calls you like 30 times a day.
  • when he tells you what or what not to wear.
  • when he sends his friends to spy on you.
  • when you are his only friend and he blackmails you with that.
  • when he picks a fight with every guy that talks to you.
  • when he is secretly or openly checking your call log and messages.
  • when he hits you because you are talking to other men.
  • when he doesn’t allow you to go out and interact with others.
  • when he forces you to do things against your will.

when he locks you up for disobeying him.

  • when he accuses you of lying and having affair with other men all the time

The above is just few of the signs to know when your man is over-possessive.

know that they is a big difference between fiction and reality don’t be deceived.


As i said before many women over look the dangers of over-possessiveness to fulfill their christian Grey fantasy. Remember that it’s just fiction. Been Over-possessive can lead to physical and verbal abuse even when you feel you are obeying him. over-possessiveness is the sister to obsession.

I heard a story of a man who poured a dangerous substance that disfigured the wife’s face because she was pretty and he didn’t want men staring at her. You are probably shaking your head, and asking what devil possessed this man. This starts slowly until it consumes. Some men have a personality disorder and this can lead to over-possessiveness, like a man who killed his girlfriend and then himself because she broke up with him,so that they could continue their relationship in heaven? I would love for you to sit down and ask your self there questions.

Can i cope with a man who hits me?
Can i wear only what he wants? Can i bear the shame of having him fighting every one?

Am i ready to be a slave?

Can i raise my children in a violent home?

Don’t let love blind you. A man who hits you is not worth it

Your answer to the above will determine whether you want out. I have seen many women who are miserable because of an over-possessive relationship and there are too afraid to leave.

It is very important to pay attention to the attitude of the man asking you out before you agree to date him. If you notice any of this run like the wind to avoid

had i know

  • when he is trying so hard to hold your hand in public.
  • if he is violent and rude to people.
  • when he sends you offensive text messages when you forget to call back or reply.
  • when he is constantly asking you who you are talking to on the phone when he called.
  • when he makes sure that no other man talks to you.

if you catch him secretly spying on you while you undress or from afar

The above could manifest it’s self in the first few dates. note that some men can hide their other side to get what they want so be careful. Get to know a person before you start dating. Now you are already in this kind of relationship and you don’t know what to do you are unhappy and don’t know how to deal with it? That shall be discussed in my next article.

I would love to know what you think. comment below.

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  • Reply
    Ritter Standley
    September 22, 2014 at 5:02 am

    Trust is paramount in any relationship. I am not an expert when it comes to these but I would agree with Frank. Sometimes it boils down to family history and not being able to have an ideal family structure which led a man or even a woman, per se, to be extremely possessive. Thanks for sharing this post.

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    July 3, 2014 at 11:37 am

    over possessiveness is not bad in relationship but when it reach rising your hand to beat a woman i think it has reach it extreme level, and any man that beat a woman is not worth having her.

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      Nancy Nwankwo
      September 9, 2014 at 9:56 am

      @mubitech thanks for your contribution i agree with you that any man who hits a woman doesn’t deserve her at all and he is a Coward.

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    June 12, 2014 at 5:20 pm

    Most men are rash and their actions may be termed over possessive but, more often than not, it’s not their fault. A lot of the time, it is due to home violence, lack of parental training and broken homes. Of course when one grows up not trusting their parents, it becomes difficult trusting anyone for that matter.

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      Nancy Desire Nwankwo
      September 9, 2014 at 10:08 am

      @Frank thanks for your contribution. But i believe that no one should keep blaming their family or past for their problems. It’s time to move on and become a better person

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    Johnnie Ode
    June 11, 2014 at 6:55 am

    Nice write-up

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    Emmanuel Kenny Cyphers
    June 11, 2014 at 6:13 am

    I think over possessiveness is bad cos it could drive some of us crazy… but I believe in a relationship if you really love him. You gat to make him trust you. Trust matters for me. If there’s trust why would he want to be over possessive.

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      Nancy Desire Nwankwo
      September 9, 2014 at 10:05 am

      @Emmanuel thanks for your contribution. Trust is really important in any relationship

    so what do you think?